Change Your Entire Game
What really happens when change never happens.
Like a muscle, we seek the failure point to grow. We can move to the edge of failure to grow. Failure, regret, pain, mistakes, errors, bottlenecks, all of them are opportunities, they are everywhere. In both the positive and negative events of our lives, we always find growth.
Avoiding failure can create a mask of perfection; this is fiction, we refine and refine some ideas, we look for lessons from the context, from a relation, from a situation just to stay almost in the same place or make a little improvement. Perfection always demands a little refinement before we make a decision, it also means that the real state is fear of that thing that isn’t ready yet.
In the search for perfection there is something deeper, our friend and the good-looking “continuous improvement”, i.e., little steps of change every day. This approach doesn’t end the game; it refines the same game. Little improvements must be minimized, endless improvement on the same game could cause us to feel heaviness because the rules are always the same.
Eventually, you will get stuck in your disciplinary habits and your curiosity will get lost trying to resolve something, trying to make changes, when the root issue is that you want to change entirely the game. In the intense pursuit of discipline, there is a subtle sensation of not accepting what we are and we change it aggressively. We separate the tool from the self and lose our capacity for self-regulation, we play the same rules in the name of our disciplined status quo that separates us from others but first from ourselves.
Inevitably, life is like a compass between regulation and deregulation, the biggest growth comes when you destabilize yourself on purpose, when you stop using the same way to approach a problem, concept, or relation, when you stop using the same methodology again, and again, you start creating and not repeating.
Doing the same is a trap, it is your biggest trap, a wired trap also for your business and the curious thing is that you already feel that heaviness of the same little improvement and we continue strengthening our discipline.
How To Do Something Really Different?
The first step is detecting what game you’re playing, what role was assigned to you, even if you aren’t aware of it. You can follow someone or your business competition until you realize that you’re going to crash with them against the same wall.
Explore Your Tools
Your approach could have a blind spot, when you can’t make a radical change you are attached to your own methodology. Something that worked yesterday, today might not work and also gets you stuck tomorrow. A tool can work until a decrease in value, slowing your speed and making you feel heavy from using it constantly. The quantum leap starts with your tools, your tools aren’t only the technical tools, they are the concepts, value phrases, and behaviors. Exploration is for the discovery of why you are using them and eventually for whom.
Change The Entire Game
Moving to another country, exploring a new place, practicing a new behavior, that could change your way of seeing life forever, jumping on to your fears and discovering your gift.
Remember, the problem is not the plan that you make for your progress, the problem is that you believe that you need all steps, those little baby steps of improvement. Jump to your dream and build your dream creating, focusing, and amplifying your energy all at the same time instead of walking the plan. Enter the creator mode with yourself and position yourself in the middle of the experience.
Avoid Your Old Patterns
Switch, instead of maintaining your way of doing and being, be open to changes, make big ones, and avoid your old patterns: Literally, ignore your doubts, stop asking if something is possible, and suspend your old self.
If you feel the comfort of your chair at your desk, it means that a couple of people are navigating the speed of changes that occur in real-time every day. If you feel that someone or the organization that you work for is “saving you”, you are just experimenting a slow-motion moment before crashing with the fast changes of reality. Transformation is inevitable and no one will be able to say “Here’s another change that isn’t going to work again or affect me” the real problem would be that change doesn’t happen.
Thank you for reading.
Julián.-